Emotional intelligence is….wisdom…common sense….intuition.. You’ve already experienced the voice of wisdom when you consider others’ feelings, have greater patience with others, give kindness, are sensitive to the other person, pick your battles in a heated interaction, stop blaming others for how you feel, forgive others. When you listen and follow your voice of wisdom….you bring out the best of you…while bringing out the best in others.

“What if having fun together brought you closer together and more in alignment with each other? When people interact with a nice feeling, they treat each other with kindness. It’s automatic. It doesn’t take work.”

In the past I would have been on a pity party writing my woes in a journal. Today I am writing to share the best kept secret about how to truly thrive in life, no matter what your situation or circumstance is.

Dr. Keith Blevens talking about a new understanding in the field of psychology that fundamentally changed his life and that of so many others. I offer many ways for you to gain this understanding for yourself.

What if there was never a good reason to lie to anyone, ever; beyond the fear of being struck by lightning or growing a nose the length of Pinocchio’s? What if we were not afraid, to tell the truth, because we were not afraid to be vulnerable, knowing that everyone is pure spirit, housed within an imperfect body and brain that makes mistakes?

The statement stopped me in my tracks. What an interesting idea, I thought. “I don’t know you well enough to lie to you.” It was spoken recently by a new friend of mine.

It’s true we didn’t know each other well; this was only the 4th get together. We were headed for a picnic on the lawn at Tanglewood, geared up to see Yo-Yo-Ma.

One sentence: “I Don’t Know You Well Enough to Lie to You” blinked internal neon lights at me.

Why do we spend our precious time judging ourselves and others? It’s a habit of thinking that drifts away when you’ve reached a greater depth.